Give back what was never yours to carry
Every adult and every couple brings their younger selves into the room.
As a child and adolescent psychotherapist now working with adults and couples in Enfield, Angel and online, I help you understand how your childhood experiences, family dynamics, cultural identity and intergenerational trauma may still be shaping your life today.
Together, we'll explore how these experiences can show up today as anxiety, shame, guilt, self-criticism and people-pleasing.
At your pace, we'll look at the patterns you inherited, the roles you learned to play and the burdens that were never yours to carry, helping you improve your relationships, set healthier boundaries and live more authentically.
Is this what you’re going through?
Are you wondering why your relationships with friends, family and romantic partners feel so strained?
Do you find it easier to support others than to ask for support yourself?
Are you highly self-critical and hold yourself to impossible standards? Yet no matter how much you achieve, it rarely feels like enough.
Perhaps you feel guilty when you disappoint your friends, set boundaries or prioritise your own needs.
Growing up, expressing certain feelings may not have felt possible, so you've learnt to put other people's feelings before your own.
Do you feel like you’re a disappointment to your family, or feel as though you’re betraying them in some way?
Or perhaps you are feeling suffocated by overbearing family members and their expectations, feeling unseen and unheard in their presence.
You may find yourself repeating familiar patterns in friendships and relationships, becoming the listener, rescuer or peacemaker while your own needs go unheard and your relationships with friends, family and romantic partners become more strained.
Deep down, you long to feel accepted for who you are, rather than what you do for others or don’t express for yourself.
Imagine being able to tell a friend, "I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and don't have the capacity to support you," without feeling guilty afterwards.
Feeling free to express your thoughts, feelings and needs more authentically without constantly worrying about how someone else will react.
Being able to trust that healthy relationships can survive honesty, disagreement and boundaries.
Imagine recognising when a friendship or relationship mirrors a role you learnt to play growing up and feeling able to choose something different.
Feeling more secure in your relationships, clearer about your boundaries and more connected to who you are beneath the expectations placed upon you.
And ultimately, being able to speak to yourself in a kinder way.
How would it feel to be living your true authentic life? This is what therapy with me will help you work towards.
Imagine this…
Get in Touch!
Schedule a 15-20 minute introductory call with me to discuss your needs and see if we can work together.
